The other day while I was driving with Chase I started thinking about the bigger picture. That this whole earth experience is one long waiting game. From the moment we are born we wait to die. I believe that there was a before we came to earth and there is an after once we die.
So this short term waiting game for Chase and I to start a family is insignificant compared to the whole experience on earth. I think that the ultimate test of this life is, patience.
If you think about it in shorter terms:
- Waiting to grow up to get our drivers license
- Turning 18
- Finding the right person
- Getting married
- Buying a house
We all have a choice with how we wait for things to happen in our lives.
Sometimes our patience is tested even more than we feel we could actually bear. I got a text from Chase one day that said: “Do you realize that you are given trials of patience every day? Praying about it doesn’t make it come. You just don’t pay attention to it until you pray about it.”
This is such a great video on patience, and every time I am reminded to be a little more patient and that it will all pay off in the end.
So while we need to have patience on a daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly basis, we also need to be proactive while we wait.
We can’t sit back and expect things to change if we aren’t willing to work for them.
There’s a parable Jesus talks about in the New Testament on the talents in Matthew 25:
A master gave 3 of his servants talents (money). One servant received 5, another received 2 and the last servant received 1 talents.What did they do with the talents?The servant who had 5, worked hard and gained 5 more; the servant who got 2, worked hard and gained 4 more; but the servant who received 1 talent hid his and did not gain any more. The master came back and told the two that had gained talents that they were faithful servants and since they were faithful over a few things he would make them ruler over many things. For the servant that hid his talent (because he was afraid) the master called him a slothful (lazy) servant and took his talent from him.
The servant who buried his talents wasn’t being proactive while waiting for his master’s return. He didn’t put forth any effort.
What should we learn from this?
We can’t sit back and do nothing while we are given the chance (talents) to be patient. While we are in the midst of being patient we need to be productive.
I have a few friends who have felt that need to wait for a miracle, but they aren’t just sitting around doing nothing. They are staying positive, being proactive with building their relationships with their spouse, trying to stay fit and healthy, and drawing closer to God through scripture study and church attendance.
Chase and I have chosen to spend our time waiting by; getting out of debt, strengthening our relationship, and focusing on serving others. Because that will ultimately make us happy.
So the big question, what are you doing in your time of waiting?
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